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Anonymous asked: What are some good makeup tricks for blasian eyes?

Since this is a related question:

Again, it depends on the shape. If your eyes have more of that typically Asian shape (almond shaped/small eyes or even single eyelids) you probably want to define the shape of the eye a little more with eyeliner. 

Start at the inside of the eye and draw a thin line outward just at the lash line. Then make a larger line over top of that line. At the outer corner of the eye, gently make a small wing line pointing at an upwards angle. You can make both the initial line and the wing as thin or thick as you like, depending on your preferences and the event you’re going to. 

For shadows (double lids) highlight the lower lid with a lighter color (not necessarily white unless you’re into that), and then highlight your crease with a darker color (NOT BLACK. You will look like a demonic child if you do that. Try a shade not much darker than your skin tone, or a brownish color, or if you’re wearing colorful eyeshadow, try a shade slightly darker than the color you put on your lower lid.) The upper lid and just below the brow bone stays neutral. You can put shadow on it, but it should be a color close to your skin. 

If you’re going for a smokey look, lower lid has a dark grey/black color, crease has a dark brown color.

For single lids, closer to the lash line, highlight (above your eyeliner) with a lighter color, and then blend that into a darker color (slightly darker than your skin tone or the first color you used) DO NOT put this color all the way up to your brow. Just blend slightly above the lighter color. Then, above that darker color, use a neutral color, close to your skin color. 

For both, you can open up the eyes by highlighting the corners with a little bit of the whitest eyeshadow you own. Don’t leave a big white mark, though. Just dab a little on the inner corners, then lightly blend it with your finger, and dab a little on the outer corners and lightly blend it with your finger (being very careful not to ruin the eyeliner/wing). When you look in the mirror, it should not look like there is white there. It should look like a natural highlight. It gives the impression that you have bright, wide eyes.

Also, I would skip the lower eyeliner altogether. Lining the water line can determine exactly where your eyes stop, and if you have smaller eyes, it can make them look smaller. If you want to put some there, just put a little black/brown liner directly in the center part of your water line (don’t connect it to the top lid’s liner) and then put mascara on your lower lashes. .

Also, ALWAYS put mascara on your upper lashes. This makes your eyes look brighter and more open, as well. If your eyelashes turn down a little, curl them upwards, first. You don’t have to buy an eyelash curler. This can be done with your thumb and a metal spoon. (Please google for instructions.)

The goal of this make-up, if you have Asian-shaped eyes, is to help your eyes look bright and alert and open. This does NOT mean all Asian people have “dull, closed looking eyes.” This is just addressing the concern that many Asian/Hapa women have about having small eyes. And these are techniques that I use, as well. 

Anonymous asked: Whats your makeup routine and what products do you use?

I guess I’ll start by saying products vary from person to person and other than skin tone, I don’t think certain products are better or worse for certain races or ethnicities. 

That said, I don’t wear a lot of make-up on a regular basis, but on special occasions, when I go out, or when I just feel like wearing it, I do.

My skincare regimen is pretty simple. I use Noxzema and St. Ives Apricot Scrub to clean my face, but not together. Typically, I use Noxzema to clean after I’ve worn make-up or if I feel like I want a deep pore cleanse. I use St. Ives Apricot Scrub usually the morning after wearing heavy make-up and every few days (not every day, because I find it too abrasive to use on my face every day). Daily, I just use regular Dove bar soap. It doesn’t matter which scent for me, but if your skin is very sensitive, scents might not be good for your face, so you can choose the scent free one or the basic white or pink beauty bar. After cleansing the skin, I use Olay Daily Moisture face moisturizer. Sometimes I put a drop of cocoa butter oil in it, to help even out skintone.

I’m telling you this because general skincare is important for wearing make-up. Take care of your skin and your make-up will look better. It doesn’t have to be expensive at all. All I use are drugstore products. I’m not saying expensive face serums and creams don’t do great things for the skin, but I’m saying that you don’t need them to take good care of your face.

One thing I want to try, though, is the Korean facial mist. If I try it, I’ll let you guys know what it’s like 

As far as make-up, I tend to spend more money. I use Smashbox’s Camera Ready BB cream in light/medium. If you want to try this brand, go to a Sephora(or equivalent) store and get the color matched to your skin. I thought I was supposed to use “medium” but it ended up looking to ashy/dark on my skin, so I ended up buying light/medium. Do your color match BEFORE you buy. This stuff costs nearly $40 US. I like this brand because it goes on smooth and doesn’t make you shiny and it gives enough coverage that you don’t need additional concealers or foundations if you don’t want to use them. (Some people use BB cream under their usual make-up, which does help the make-up look more perfected.) I also use Urban Decay’s Shadow Primer Potion for eye shadow and their Naked palette for my eyeshadow. (Naked 3 for deeper tones.) I like gel eyeliner, or eyeliner pens. I hate pencils(though you need them for your water line/lower lid). For my eyes, because of the almond shape, I prefer thick, black eyeliner w/ wings. I don’t have a favorite, although I like Kat Von D’s tattoo liner a lot. 

Lips, I loved reds, and bright colors. But for lip gloss, I like neutral or slightly pink colors. Make Up For Ever has great lipsticks. NARS has great matte lipstick pencils, which are great. 

For remover, I like Make Up For Ever’s Sens’Eyes. It takes off all of the eye make up completely, without irritating your eyes or making your lashes fall off. Regular Noxzema is great for taking off your BB cream/foundation. I usually rinse my face first, then apply Noxzema and leave it until it stops tingling, then wash it off. 

That’s it, entirely. But that’s also just me. It’s all up to you and your skin, really. And your features. Depending on those things, you can figure out which products and styles and colors work best for you. :) Cheers!

Anonymous asked: What are some good curly hair products to use for your hair? Since you mixed I would assume you have thick curly hair. Im half black and Japanese and every curly product I use fails me.. LOL please help

I’ve been through a lot of trial and error with my hair. 

I mean, I’ve done a lot to it over the years. When I was in high school, I started getting a relaxer at the suggestion of a hair stylist that I had been going to. It got my first relaxer at maybe 15? It was a terrible idea and way too harsh for my hair but I didn’t realize that at the time. So, my hair in high school was straight and manageable but it fluctuated in length and strength because that hair stylist was actually damaging my hair. When I was maybe 17 or 18, I noticed one day that my hair was coming out in clumps. I was coming my hair, and it was just coming out and coming out and I started crying and that’s when my mom was like “we’re not going back to that hair stylist anymore.”

So, my freshman year of college, I stopped getting relaxers altogether and started growing out my hair. I was too scared to chop off the relaxed bit, so I just kept using a flat iron to make my natural hair look like the relaxed hair at the ends. Eventually, I cut off all the relaxed ends, but only after my hair was acceptably long to me at the time. 

Anyway, fast forward. I’ve used everything from Mixed Chicks (pretty decent with moisture and softness and not heavy products but kind of expensive) to Creme of Nature (the Lemongrass and Rosemary Leave-In Creme Conditioner is the best! I still love it.) to a variety of different Carol’s Daughter products (pretty decent. Not my favorites, but good to your hair and smell great. Would use the creams and hair milk, though. The shampoos are average) to Smooth N’Shine products (not recommended. A lot of their products are basically chemical straighteners in disguise and you can really mess up your hair.) I even tried co-wash, which I didn’t like. 

Through everything, I’ve learned that you have to figure out what works best for you. My hair is something between a 3B and 3C curl pattern and rather dry because I damaged it a little using bleach lol.

Right now, I’m using good old Garnier Fructis. I won’t say it’s amazingly better than any of the other products. In fact, I think my two favorites are still Mixed Chicks and Creme of Nature. But Garnier Fructis products are very moisturizing and gentle and they have been a help in getting my hair to be less frizzy and dry after using bleach. I’ve been using their Hydra Recharge shampoo and their Triple Nutrition conditioner. I also like their Marvelous Oil, which you can put on before a blow dry or just every day as a sheen and protectant. 

These products also smell great. You will smell like fruit every day, which is nice. 

Overall, I’d say find yourself a good shampoo that doesn’t strip the natural oils too much, and a really moisturizing conditioner and for every day, you can either use daily creams that will define your curls or light oils if you plan to flat iron your hair and wear it straight (light oils also help your hair to stay straight longer and resist humidity.) Also, DEEP CONDITION at least once a month, or every two weeks (which is what I do.) You can try ORS’s Olive Oil Replenishing Pak. It smells strongly of oranges, which can be a positive or a negative, but it’s really light and makes your hair feel really soft afterwards. 

Sorry for the length, but as you know, hair is an important and extensive subject for biracials and for any person of color, lol. 

Well, I’m 75% African American and 25% Filipino but people think I’m half and half. I always tell them I am not. A lot of people think that because of my curly hair and eyes, so you can’t really determine if someone’s half and half by how they look.

I’m sorry, I’m not sure what this was in reference to? I haven’t really been posting on this blog… for a long time, now. Unless you’re just sharing your story, in which case, thanks.

I will point out, though, that scientifically and biologically, “race” doesn’t exist, so most of what we think of as “racial classification” is determined by looks, actually. (The other things being culture and country/region of origin.) But, no, you wouldn’t be able to tell if a person has one black parent and one Asian parent by looks. Genetics don’t really work that way, in general. 

Anonymous asked: Im a keep it real with you, i think asian girls and blasian girls are sexy, and i would really like to get with one in the future. Which cities and states do you know have the largest asian or blasisn population? I heard its L.A

That’s not what this blog is for. This is not about “getting with” girls who are Asian or Afro-Asian, and I am not for one minute about to help you fetishize these women. There’s already way too much “blasian” fetishization going on in the blasian tag, and wayyyy too much yellow fever all over the internet. This blog will not now, or ever, help contribute to it. Do not ask me these types of questions. 

If you want to actually meet and talk to girls who have this particular ethnicity, then you’ll have to meet them the way you would any other girl. Blasian girls, and Asian girls, are not your sex toys. There’s not a “place” that you go to find them. 

Further, this is not a relationship blog, or a matchmaking site.

I was wondering could she be blasian ?

It’s difficult to tell if someone is mixed race by looking at them. Some mixed race people look entirely one race, some look a good mix between both/all ethnicities presented. The truth is, she could be blasian, but there’s no way I could tell you by looking at her. She’s a lovely girl, though.
Also, please be careful about submitting pictures of people without their permission. 

I was wondering could she be blasian ?

It’s difficult to tell if someone is mixed race by looking at them. Some mixed race people look entirely one race, some look a good mix between both/all ethnicities presented. The truth is, she could be blasian, but there’s no way I could tell you by looking at her. She’s a lovely girl, though.

Also, please be careful about submitting pictures of people without their permission. 

Anonymous asked: So My grandmother is Korean and my mother is half Korean half black, and we visit Korea every year At home we speak korean, and I've said Korea about fifty million times now.(sorry!) I have curly hair and stuff and asian eyes but like standard black girl skin and it's hard for me to make friends that are black because theres such a cultural difference. Has that ever happened to you? if so what should I do, i feel like it don't know the "black" side of me at all?

I would take a step back and look at things in prospective. You describe yourself as a person of African descent who is atypical of what is usually thought of as “black”. There are many people of African descent who are atypical of what is thought of as “black” or even black or African culture. Likewise, many Africans are vastly culturally different than African-Americans. You didn’t say where you’re from, and I’m just assuming you’re American, but I would assume that’s true for any black population of any non-African country.

I understand your dilemma of feeling different from other black people or not knowing where you fit in. It’s a sentiment shared by many mixed race people who often feel culturally different than their parents’ cultures. But understand that you are not alone in that feeling, and that said, there are probably other people of African descent that you could relate to. 

Don’t worry so much about trying to fit in with black people. Just make friends normally. In today’s multicultural society, I’m sure you can find someone who identifies as black or mixed race with whom you’ll fit in. In the meantime, you could help yourself understand black cultures better by reading up on history, and social issues that blacks encounter. I bet you’ll find you relate to a lot of these things. Where is the black side of your family from? Are they North American? Are they Jamaican? Or Haitian? Whatever that culture is, you learn about it independently. Read works by black authors, find blogs that talk about black issues. That’s one way to learn about your culture and learn how you fit in.

Likewise, seek out other multiracial people of African descent, and see how they deal with these kinds of things. We all have our own experiences, in our case, of not feeling black enough, not feeling Asian enough, feeling like we don’t fit in culturally. 

I know that I have felt like an outsider in certain situations. When I was younger, it would hurt my feelings when black kids teased me for having lighter skin, and looking different, and when they said that I didn’t “act black.” But as I got older, and I knew who I was, that type of talk pretty much stopped, because I owned who I am, and people respect that. I also think that as you get older, some things that mattered a lot when you were young seem to matter less. I don’t feel like an outsider anymore, on the Asian side or the black side, because I know where I belong. I know who I am, and I recognize where I’m different, but I don’t take that to mean something bad, or assume that someone won’t like me because of it.  Likewise, I accept the ways people are different from me, and celebrate that, as well. Our differences make humanity interesting. 

I suspect that black people will accept you just fine, even if you don’t relate to them culturally. Remember that “black people” aren’t a collective with no individuality. You might meet somebody who thinks you’re weird because you’re “too Asian”, but you might meet somebody who is black who relates more to the things you relate to. 

khaeiou7 asked: Can i still be considered blasian even if my asian ancestry is a few generations back? (my 3rd great grandfather was half japanese) does it still count.

Well, personal identity is different for everyone. For instance, many people who have mixed ancestry, but mostly one race, feel most comfortable identifying with that one race. 

I would say, if you don’t have any personal familial connection to a race or culture, it isn’t really right to claim that you are that race, even if you’re a small amount. If other people in your family don’t consider themselves part-Japanese, and you don’t have family members that you know who are Japanese, and you don’t consider Japanese culture part of your family’s culture, then, no, you probably shouldn’t claim to be Japanese. A 3rd great grandfather is pretty far removed. (Obviously, there are cases of exception, such as someone being directly of Asian and African descent from both parents, but having been adopted, may not have any ties to either culture, and so on, but I digress.)

At the end of the day it’s up to you to decide how you identify. Maybe talk to your family about it, and see where they stand on the issue. There is no shame in being interested in that part of your family’s history, and learning about it, but announcing yourself as “Blasian” could be a bit much, in this case. Especially if there’s only that small amount of Asian, and the rest, for five generations, has been black. You have to remember that many black people around the world have some sort of mixing, usually with whites, as far back as “3rd great grandfather”, but most of them don’t go around saying they’re biracial or multiracial people. 

I think it’s fine if you talk about the fact that your great-grandfather was half Japanese, and it’s fine if you find yourself interested in Japan and Japanese culture. Also, your personal identity can only be yours, so you should probably make your own mind up, or discuss it with your family. You wouldn’t want to disrespect or offend them by claiming to be something that they don’t consider themselves. 

Likewise, you wouldn’t want to disrespect or offend Japanese people by appropriating their culture.

ruinboy asked: Are you still considered Blasian if you're not half and half? Because I'm mixed with other things but both of my parents are mainly black... So am I still Blasian, because I have some Asian blood?

I think so. Most of the time, when people think “Blasian” they think one Asian parent and one Black parent, but I think having Asian blood and Black blood counts.

For instance, Jhene Aiko is a very famous Blasian, and her mother is Black & Japanese, and her father is Black & Native American. 

And people like Ne-Yo and Naomi Campbell, who are mainly black, but both have Chinese grandmothers, are still considered Afro-Asian. 

You can definitely consider yourself Blasian, as long as you have some black and some Asian ancestry. 

half filipino, half black :)

half filipino, half black :)